Children are gifts from God but with way things are turning out these days, it feels like kids are burdens to parents.
I for one had bad parenting, in fact i had no parents at all, i was forced to stay with cousins and i make bold to declare that if not for God, my life would have been worse than this. I have friends who didn’t turnout like me, some have really detesting behaviors and lifestyle that its so easy to spot that this person had a bad upbringing.
Charity they say begins at home but some people didn’t even experience “cha” talk more of “charity”.
I worked with a guy who’s about 5 years older than me. I was 20 at the time so he’d have been about 25. Still lived at home with his parents because mom wasn’t ready to “let him go.” He had a 9 pm curfew and ALWAYS had to have permission to “go over to a friend’s house.”
I was nice to him because I felt bad for him and I guess in his mind, that meant we were friends so I got to know him slightly better than you would a standard coworker. He did have a learning disability (so helicopter mom’s got a valid concern) but he wasn’t retarded or slow. He was a fully capable adult.
The first time I met his mom I KNEW there was no hope for this guy. She CONSTANTLY controlled his every move. He couldn’t eat certain foods because they’d “give you gas” or “I don’t think you’d like that anyway,” and he wasn’t allowed to do ANYTHING without her permission. He had his license, but she drove him to and from work. She even ended up getting a job in the same building, though a different department, and I suspect it had nothing to do with “carpooling to save gas money.”
Last I heard, he FINALLY was able to get his own apartment, but I still see them around town together. I NEVER see him on his own. She’ll even go with him to the bathroom at the county fair…
Helicopter mom ruined that guy and he’s gonna be so screwed when she kicks it and leaves him behind.
Parents are suppose to be caregivers, in other words we are to be better humans because we have parents. We should be able to dream and know that our parents have our backs and they solidly supporting us.
In this same vibe, a friend of mine Tito Nwachokor will be releasing his book titled “How To Parent Us” on the 12th of May, it will be made available on Okada books and other book platforms. Get a copy and read, also share with parents who feel need some help with their parenting duties.